With spring and summer somewhere on this cold, dreary, horizon that time of year is coming again. Mailboxes are thawing out just in time to start filling up with shower invites. New babies and new engagements and new homes are something to celebrate (most of the time), but what about all of our other milestone moments (i.e. the ones that are more.. single gal friendly)?
I’ve never been a big planner or commitment maker, and I lack the certain ability needed for “foresight” (whatever that is). I’ve never really pictured myself getting married, or having children. In case of emergency, I always figured it’d be something small, low key, and maybe even a secret. So what about us girls that aren’t so keen on making lifetime commitments, shouldn’t we get a time to shine? Below are some things I think we should consider celebrating, so more of us can get some time in the spotlight and get away from that “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” feeling.
Finishing a degree
Whether it’s an associates, masters, bachelors, or doctorate, all degrees are something
to celebrate. Most people have big blow celebrations for finishing high school. Looking back now, I probably could’ve finished high school in my sleep. No one likes to see someone fail, and teachers, parents, and friends will do what they can to see a girl walk down that graduation aisle. Now college on the other hand, that crap is hard! It takes hard work, dedication, and most challenging of all – self motivation – to get through that crap. But the payoff, so rewarding. So why aren’t we celebrating these? Where was my degree shower? After I finished my masters (library and information science), I could’ve had an epic library themed party! Food and drinks named after famous characters, authors, and books. We could’ve taken it a step farther and even dressed up as literary icons! The options are endless: invitations on library cards, confetti made out of card catalog cards (lord knows those are basically useless now – one of the student workers in my library didn’t even know what they were “what are these cards we use as scrap paper??”), decorations made out of old books pages, games and activities involving “shhh”ing…
Adopting a new pet
Who needs babies when you can have a dog (or a cat, rabbit, hamster, ferret, gecko, whatever your fancy)! Pets aren’t cheap. For lots of people (women and men), pets will be their only children (they really are part of the family). Instead of having a baby shower, why not have a pet shower? Please, bring me potty training pads, food, toys, and grooming supplies. Or in lieu of gifts, donate to a local animal shelter. We can all get together in a park, yard, or on a beach with our pets and have a pet party. Again food and drinks can be animal themed (think a drink labeled “toilet water,” cookies in shape of dog bones, and “doggy bags” to take home leftover snacks). Coordinated activities might be difficult for animals, but they’d still enjoy a good play time while the “mommies and daddies” stand by mingling, and reveling in the awesomeness. I definitely picture the animals all wearing party hats. Whether or not this would be feasible isn’t important, I’m just brainstorming here. I challenge you to think of something cuter than a pet party.
Moving into your first “real” apartment
Many of us move out on our own all alone. Moving in with a boyfriend can be a huge commitment, and lets face it – guys can be gross (no offense, I know girls can be quite a mess too. I had the pleasure of living in a house of 19-21 year old girls and guys when I was in college). Getting your own place is exciting, even if it’s not a permanent home, and we should have apartment warming parties as well as house warming parties! We can all stand around, eat snacks, and sip boxed wine because a first apartment probably won’t have a nice wine rack and definitely won’t have enough furniture (that’s what the house warming parties are for).
I know there are many more things out there you lovely readers think deserve a little celebration (paying off a credit card, starting a new hobby, making a new friend that isn’t a coworker). It’s time to stand up for a change! No more showering others until we can all take a turn being showered!